Author: Bob Cope

17 Feb Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone

We’ve all heard that change is difficult and it’s so true for most of us.  We have our normal daily routine of what feels comfortable to us.  It’s our comfort zone.  But it’s so important to our lives to step out of our comfort zone.

Stepping out of our comfort zone is what allows us to grow and experience all life has to offer.  This comes easier to some than others.  We all know those people that live by the old Nike commercial of Just Do It.  It’s no problem for them to go out and try new experiences, but for others it’s a struggle.

If you step out of your comfort zone you have a better chance of reaching your goals and not staying stuck in mediocrity.  You will have a chance of discovering new things that you are passionate about, you will gain self-confidence, and you will learn new skills that you never knew you had.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is also important to your social life.  You may be looking for more friends or that special someone.  If you don’t force yourself and step out of your comfort zone your chances of that are diminished.

If you want something different you have to do something different.

Give us a call at 615-242-1036 and let us help you step out of your comfort zone.

06 Jul Dating During a Pandemic by Mindy McKeown

Should we continue to date during a pandemic?

The short answer is YES. As humans, we are designed for partnership and community. We are social beings. But how can we connect and date during a pandemic?

Dating during a pandemic may look a little different, but it is possible, and some may even argue that it’s actually a GREAT time to be dating. Why? Because with sex and money off the table, people have time to talk and make real connections. We can spend more time getting to know each other before we have that first date. So, by the time you DO meet face to face, you already have a certain level of comfort and connection. In a way, we’re forced to dig deeper, go past that surface level attraction and  get back to the way dating used to be, when people courted each other for months before they got physical, and everything just felt a bit more romantic.

At E&A, we have been doing virtual events throughout the entire pandemic and we will continue to keep those on the calendar even though we are now having face to face events as well. If you live a little farther out or you have had a long day at work, you can log in and connect with us virtually from the comfort of your home. And who knows… you may just meet the love of your life during a global pandemic.

What a love story that would be for the grand kids!

Give us a call today at 615-242-1036

01 Apr Must Know Dating Terms for 2020 by Kim McKeown

In 2019 we heard terms like ‘catfishing’ and ‘ghosted’ but have you heard these trending terms associated with dating in 2020?  Read on through for a list of our top nine.

Glamboozled

Ever spend time getting ready for a date only to have the other person cancel or reschedule at the last minute?  Sorry, you were Glamboozled!

Type-Casting

Don’t get us wrong, Meyers-Briggs is a great tool, but now there’s a term for those who choose to date based on this or other similar personality tests.  Yep, you guessed it, we’re gonna call this Type-Casting.

Cause-Playing

Cause-Playing happens when a casual relationship naturally fizzles out and the other person keeps popping back up asking for favors.  No, I don’t want to come to your bands gig tomorrow.  And no, I don’t want to contribute to your Go-Fund-Me.

Yellow Carding

Being rude to the server, constantly checking their phone, using inappropriate language… have you witnessed these or other similar behaviors on a date? Did you call that other human out? This is Yellow-Carding and twenty-seven percent of singles have had the courage to confront a dates bad behavior.

Dial-Toning

Ever give out your number to someone only to ignore their calls when they reach out? Thirty-five percent of singles admit to doing this to someone and sixty percent of singles surveyed say they have experienced Dial-Toning.

Eclipsing

You know those folks who seem to be chameleons?  It seems they are always adapting the same interests and hobbies as their mates?  It is termed Eclipsing and forty-five percent of singles admit to doing this.

Kanye’d

Your date spends the entire evening talking about themselves without allowing you to get a word in edgewise.  Does this sound familiar?  You have been Kanye’d.

White Clawing

White Clawing is the act of staying with someone who is both basic and boring because they happen to be beautiful.

And last but not least, our personal favorite…

Fleabagging

Okay folks, we have two distinct types of fleabaggers here.  We have those who hop back and forth between multiple horrid people, and we have the ones who go back to the same terrible person over and over.  Either way, these folks are bad.  Like really yucky bad people.  Like a dog, a Fleabagger collects fleas.

And lastly, if you’re not sure how to meet people face-to-face these days…

Give us a call at 615-242-1036!

11 Dec The Advantages of Traditional Dating by Mindy McQ

These days, many people have switched to the internet as their primary source for meeting potential partners. However, there are some major disadvantages to online dating. Keep reading to see why meeting face-to-face is STILL the best way to build a relationship.

1.) What You See is What You Get

Traditional dating allows you to gather some really important information about a person you’re interested in. Meeting someone face-to-face prohibits them from being able to misrepresent their physical description, such as body type, size, age and level of activeness. We’ve all met that person who claimed to be 10 years younger, 5 inches taller and 50 lbs. heavier/thinner online. Now, we’re definitely not saying that one body type is better than another. In fact, it’s quite the opposite! We live in a big world full of people and plenty of them are attracted to you, EXACTLY AS YOU ARE! So when you misrepresent yourself online, you are preventing yourself from finding those people, and instead, attracting all the wrong people for your unique, beautiful self! Skip the online dating all together and you’ll never have to worry about that.

2.) Honest Courting Through Activities

Traditional dating also allows for a variety of dating options… not just texting or the infamous “Netflix and chill”. With traditional dating, there is a courting phase that allows both parties to get comfortable with each other and find common interests through activities. Have you ever created an online profile and lied just a little bit to try and attract a certain type of person? Well, if you have, you’re in the majority. In fact, over 53% of people admit to lying on their dating profiles. Maybe you said you liked sports to attract more guys… or you lied about liking romantic comedies in order to attract more women? Well, in traditional dating, you are actually DOING activities, not just texting about them. So unless you’re a fantastic actor/actress, you can’t fake it. Plus, by doing activities while dating, you get a chance to see how you enjoy doing those things together.

3.) The Benefit of Interacting in Real-Life Settings

Want to know how someone acts around their friends? Or how they treat the wait staff, or respond to stress? You can only get that information when you become familiar with a person in real world settings, and this is especially possible when you interact in groups or out in public! This is another HUGE benefit to traditional dating. Pay close attention to how that person represents themselves and responds in different settings and you’ll get a profound insight into your potential partner’s character and personality. Does this person fit into your friend group and family? Do your goals and morals align? Get out and experience things together and look for clues to how your date will respond to future situations.

And lastly, if you’re not sure how to meet people face-to-face these days…

Give us a call at 615-242-1036!

17 Aug The One Sure Thing in Life is Change by Beth C Goldstein

Everything always changes.  Sometimes we stay stuck in situations because we are afraid of the unknown.  Our situations can change by getting worse.  We become lonelier, more isolated and sadder.  We sit in day after day, TV show after TV show, and lonely night after lonely night.

But we can choose to make a change for the better.  Choosing to face the fear of change with boldness and telling the fear to get lost.  Stepping out despite our feelings.

If change is inevitable then why not choose change that will enrich your life.  Choose change that will open doors bringing new people and exciting things to do.  Choose change that includes growth, excitement, and new relationships.  Don’t stay in another day wishing for things to do and for someone to do them with.  Turn the TV off.  Get yourself ready.  And make new friends.

Most people have a little anxiety when walking into a room of strangers.  That is why we put friendly, out-going Event Leaders at every event.  Events & Adventures has been doing this for 32 plus years.  It makes sense that people have met their spouses here.  When you put single people in a fun, safe, and stress-free environment love happens.  We have thousands of marriages as a result of E&A membership.  Best friends, buddies, and people that you live life with are all possible.  With just one positive change you can make a significant difference in your life.

Every member has been the “NEW” person.  We make it as comfortable for you as we can by being, warm, welcoming, and open.

Come join us and choose to make the next change in your life one that is rewarding, fun, and brings you the happiness that you have been wanting.

02 May You Choose the Outcome by Beth C Goldstein

I have been with Events & Adventures for about a year now.  I have met with hundreds of people.  All kinds of people.  There are some similarities with the people that come into my office inquiring about membership.  And, there are some differences.  Here are some of the similarities and differences that I see.

Similarities

People are lonely, they are sick and tired of sitting home alone night after night wanting to do things but “feel” that they have no one to do things with.

They are bored

Most want to meet someone special to have in their lives

Friendship relationships are missing from their lives

They know that Nashville has a lot to offer and they want to explore it

They LOVE all the different things we do every day of the week

They feel safe.  There is safety in numbers, and we screen every person

Differences

Some people find it harder to step out of their comfort zone

They resist the change and may stay stuck in the cycle of unhappiness and loneliness

Some people are bound by fear

Some people are so used to making excuses that they may not even realize that the answer is right in front of them

We are here to help you with all of this.  We have very special event leaders at every single event to help ease you into the process and culture of our club.  The office staff, myself included, love doing what we do, we get excited helping you to get acclimated.

The greatest success comes from the people that go into this as a new and exciting adventure with optimism.  They go to as many events as possible.  These folks have great results and get more out of the club than they ever expected.  Rich relationships.  Deep, intimate connection to a special someone.  A new and exciting lease on life.  Discovering their city of Nashville and all the culture, music, TPAC, and parks that it has to offer.  I hear over and over, thank you, this is the best thing that I have done for myself.  I am so glad I did this.  The most common response that I hear is, having something on my schedule to look forward to is what makes the biggest difference in my life.  It’s the difference between sadness and loneliness to excitement and fun.

Like anything else, you will get out of Events & Adventures what you put into it.  What YOU have to put into it, is time.  Go to the events and you are sure to meet your people.  Your tribe!  Your special someone may just be at the next event you attend.

Events & adventures, the answer you’ve been looking for.

Beth C Goldstein

Certified Life Coach for E&A

16 Feb The Strength of the Single Person by Beth C Goldstein

Some singles may not look at themselves as being strong.  Some may even consider themselves to be weak, inadequate, or even worthless.  There can be such a stigma on being single.  I honestly believe that this is changing.  It is changing because people are starting to realize that quality of life is not determined by one set of standards anymore.  Quality of life is being defined by individuals instead of society telling us what makes us worthy.  What once was, no longer is.  This is true for all of life.  We are not the people of a century ago, half century or even a decade ago.  With technology changing at the rapid rate it is, it is sure to have an impact on the way that we evaluate life.

For some, being single has become a luxury.  Being single is a testament to our strength.  It is not for the faint of heart.  We have no choice but to look out for ourselves.  We have no choice but to answer the tough questions that impact our daily living.  The way we do that will determine how we view ourselves.  The quality of our lives is determined by the choices we make.  Life style decisions are supported by our daily choices.  You can tell what is important to a person by looking at their lives.  What is their constant?  What are they known for?  How are they spending the majority of their time?  Determining the quality of your life is as easy as looking at your time.  How are you spending the hours in your day?  Is there balance in your life?  Is there meaning beyond getting through the day?  Do you have connection to others?  How is your health, your joy, your energy?  Are you making an impact for the good of others, or living in a bubble of self-absorption?

Not all single people are miserable.  Not all single people want to be coupled up.  But we do want connection to others.  We want to know that we matter.  We want a community of like-minded people to do things with and to live life with.

Events & Adventures is an answer to such a need.  Go on-line today and let us show you how the quality of your life can improve.

Beth C Goldstein

Certified Life Coach for E&A

17 Dec Say YES to everything! by Beth C Goldstein

How often do you find yourself feeling bored?  Lonely?  Sad?  Antsy?  All to often we let ourselves stay in a cycle of unfulfillment.  It might be out of not knowing what to do.  It might be out of fear.  Fear of the unknown.  Fear has been the culprit of many lonely nights.  We want to do things, we may just feel like we have no one to do them with.

That’s where Events & Adventures comes in.  We plan a different event every day of the week.  There is something for everyone.  I tell everyone….absolutely do the things that you would naturally gravitate towards, but also, step out of your comfort zone.  Try something new.  You are going to meet a whole new group of people, that you may not have met otherwise.  You may even surprise yourself…. There may actually be some things that you really enjoy doing.

If you are newly single, single and new in town, or just so busy that you haven’t had time to focus on your social life, Events & Adventures will make a significant difference in your life.  They say the first sign of insanity, is to do the same thing over and over again while expecting a different result.  Let us be the answer to your desire to get out and do fun things while meeting fun people.  Break the cycle, right here, right now!  *Your job is to say YES to everything.  You can’t afford to say no to anything.  Once you start saying YES, your situation, your circumstances, and your life will all change.

*of course, that is, if it is safe, affordable, and within reason.

Beth C Goldstein

19 Oct The Secrets Out by Beth C Goldstein

Welcome to the time of year that can make us or sometimes even break us.  As the cooler weather approaches bringing with it warm sweaters to wear, the smell of fire places in the air, mums and pumpkins on every porch and the excitement of the holiday season beginning to swirl.  It’s just a matter of time before us singles are all caught up in the frenzy of it all.  Even if we are the ones who like our singleness, the holiday season can be a reminder that something or someone may be missing.

What’s a person to do?  Well, if you live in a city where there is an Events & Adventures you’re in luck.  Nashville is one such city.  Every day there is something to do.  One of the most special things about E&A is that you meet people just like you.  People who want to connect, make friends, and do fun things together.  Once you start making friends, your quality of life changes.  You feel happier.  You look forward to doing things.  Your whole outlook on life can change.  People who join this club go to events, meet people and start living life with these people.  It becomes your new normal.  You not only do events in the club, but you get together and share time at each other’s homes, spend holidays together, and some have even gone on vacations together.  Your new best friend just might be waiting to meet you this week.

You do not have to go through another holiday season feeling lonely, sad, or like you don’t fit in anywhere.  We’re all a couple of misfits…..lol  (Rudolf the Red Nose Reindeer)  But together we make up a club of beautiful, eclectic, fun loving, activity doing singles.

There is simply no reason why you must do this thing called life alone.  No reason at all.  That’s exactly why we exist.  We haven’t been around for over 30 years, for nothing.  Thousands of people have found the antidote to loneliness….. It’s Events & Adventures.    The secrets out!

Don’t spend another month, week or day wanting to do things, but not doing them because there is no one to do them with.  We have hundreds and hundreds of people who have already signed up expecting and wanting to meet you.

Beth C Goldstein

27 Jul Single, and Choosing a Healthy & Fit Lifestyle by Beth C Goldstein

Studies show that people who are healthy and fit are not only happier, but that they lead a more fulfilling life as well.  Healthy and fit people smile more, stress less and have more energy than those of us who do not choose a lifestyle conducive to good health.

Good health is a choice.  Energy, less sickness, illness and disease are all associated with healthy choices.  There are, of course, exceptions to the rule.  I know of people who live a very “clean” lifestyle and succumb to devastating circumstances.  The odds are in our favor though, when we choose a clean diet and exercise daily, we live longer, healthier and more mobile lives.

At times, single people have an advantage to this lifestyle.  We are free to choose how we spend our time, energy and money.  We have total control over the choices that effect our lives directly.  We decide if we are going to buy lean proteins, veggies and fruits to feed ourselves.  We decide if we are going to go out for a walk, ride a bike, or hit the gym. Or, are we going to lie on the couch watching reruns of our favorite show while eating chips and ice cream.  We decide if we are going to surround ourselves with healthy, positive people or with people who drain our energy.  Making these types of everyday choices directly affect the quality of our lives.  It is what we do most often that counts.  Moderation is key to the things that we allow in our lives that are not in our best interest.  I heard a saying years ago, and it has stuck with me.  Never complain about what you permit in your life.  What are you permitting in your life? What are the circumstances that you are dealing with because of the choices that you are making?  We are in control of our choices and therefore our lives.

One way to make better choices is to gather with other people who desire the same things as you.  Events & Adventures in Nashville is a great way to meet other single people who want to be active and invest in meaningful relationships.  If you are already a member great for you.  Are you involved?  If not, get involved.  We sign new people every day.  Your best friend may be waiting to meet you and could be looking forward to that long walk together.  If you are not yet a member…….what are you waiting for, YOUR best friend, may be waiting to meet YOU, and looking forward to going on that long walk together.

Sign up for your next event or call us at 615-242-3030, we can’t wait to see you there.

Choose to make this a Healthy Day,

Beth C Goldstein

CCLC, CAPT